Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

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  • Savage Love: What Would You Do?

    Savage Love: What Would You Do?

    My husband and I are a straight couple in our early 50s, and we’ve been married for more than 30 years. We were raised to wait for sex ’til we got married—this was back in the early ’80s—and we did. Our wedding night was pretty disappointing since neither of us knew what we were doing. He got off,...

  • Savage Love: Coming Clean

    Savage Love: Coming Clean

    Coming Clean I have a dildo that I loooooove, and I was wondering if it’s safe for me to use it in both my ass and my cunt. I would clean it in between uses/orifices, of course, and it has a flared base, so it’s safe for anal play. Can I do this or do I need to get separate toys for ass and cunt?...

  • Savage Love: The Hunger

    Savage Love: The Hunger

    I’m a straight 18-year-old girl in my first sexual relationship. Things are a little awkward, and I could chalk it up to inexperience, but here’s what I feel conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination for me as a young child and became a sexual thing around the time I hit puberty....

  • Savage Love: Porn and Circumstance

    Savage Love: Porn and Circumstance

    My fiancee is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn—no addiction, no violent stuff, and I look pretty infrequently....

  • Savage Love: Programming Notes

    Savage Love: Programming Notes

    I have been wearing bras and panties with stockings for so long now, it’s become a part of me, and I was wondering if you have heard of this before. Sent From Samsung Mobile People wearing bras and panties and stockings—that is something I’ve heard of before. A quick programming note: Some weeks,...

  • Savage Love: Routine Maintenance

    Savage Love: Routine Maintenance

    What is your stance on maintenance sex? I’d never thought about the issue until reading Amy Poehler’s new memoir. I didn’t find anything she said controversial, and was surprised when this quote blew up in the feminist blogosphere: “You have to have sex with your husband occasionally, even though...

  • Savage Love: Only the Lonely

    Savage Love: Only the Lonely

    I’m a short guy and I need advice. I don’t want a small paragraph’s worth of advice, like you gave “Below Their League” a few years ago. I need advice beyond “Women like men taller than them, get over it!” I get it. I’m short (5-foot-2), and most women are taller than me. And women like tall dudes...

  • Savage Love: At the Neptune

    Savage Love: At the Neptune

    We just did a live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Seattle’s Neptune Theatre. Audience members submitted more questions—anonymously, on index cards—than we could possibly answer during the Q&A segment of the show. So I’m answering some of the questions we didn’t get to in this week’s column. Here...