Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

Recent Articles

  • Savage Love: Gay Times

    Savage Love: Gay Times

    I'm a gay man who is ready to start cheating on my boyfriend. We've had a wonderful 3.5-year-long relationship full of respect, affection, support, and fun. I love everything about our relationship, and our sex life was great. . . until he moved in eight months into the relationship. At that point,...

  • Savage Love: Asshole Moves

    Savage Love: Asshole Moves

    I've been dating this guy for almost two months. It's been pretty good, except the sex isn't really the best. I have this other male friend who has had a crush on me. Long story short: My friend made a move on me the other night. I told him I couldn't, and he knew why, but to be honest, I was insanely...

  • Savage Love: Friends with Violations

    Savage Love: Friends with Violations

    I'm a 26-year-old single bi woman. Sometimes my roommate/best friend and I have drunken threesomes with men. We've had some great one-night stands (less scary with a friend!), but recently we slept with a man I've been (drunkenly) sleeping with over a period of months, my "friend with benefits."...

  • Savage Love: Minds Blown

    Savage Love: Minds Blown

    My son, who is almost 30 years old, was married four years ago. He just shared with us that for the last three years, he and his wife have been practicing polyamory. They are committed to their relationship but have each had relationships with both men and women. We are trying to get our heads...

  • Savage Love: Guys

    Savage Love: Guys

    Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there's no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There's not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see what it would be like to be bound and gagged....

  • Savage Love: The asexual Dom

    Savage Love: The asexual Dom

    I'm confused about my sexuality. For many years, I thought I preferred hetero-romantic asexual relationships. Exposure to select reading material—thanks to my gender-studies classes—has me convinced I'm an asexual t-type (i.e., "top," but I prefer not to use such connotative terms) female who is...

  • Savage Love: Ashley's Ashes

    Savage Love: Ashley's Ashes

    Please do a public-service announcement about the Ashley Madison hack, and request that NO ONE look up information on ANYONE other than their own spouse. I'm a former AM user. I've been married to my wife for 20 years. We met when we were both 20 years old. Seven years ago, I made a selfish decision...

  • Savage Love: The Boyfriend Experience

    Savage Love: The Boyfriend Experience

    I'm a woman in a straight relationship. I woke up this morning, and my BF wasn't in bed with me. He felt ill in the middle of the night and went to sleep in the spare room—where he found a condom in its wrapper behind the nightstand. Now my BF thinks I'm cheating on him. I haven't cheated on him...

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