Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

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  • Savage Love: Curious Minds

    Savage Love: Curious Minds

    I recently spoke at Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema. Audience members submitted questions on cards before the show—anonymously—but the moderator, Lisan Jutras of the Globe and Mail, and I were having so much fun talking with each other that we didn't get to many...

  • Savage Love: Wishful Kinking

    Savage Love: Wishful Kinking

    I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, D.C., in February. There was one thing I saw there that is messing with my head, and I hope you can set me straight. There was this lovely little six-person orgy going on with two cute-as-could-be hippie girls...

  • Savage Love: Defining Decency Down

    Savage Love: Defining Decency Down

    My wife and I have a decent sex life. Pretty vanilla, but we're busy with work, chores, and life in general with two small kids, so I can't complain too much. About a year after having our second kid, I went down on my wife. As usual, we both enjoyed it greatly. Unfortunately, about a week later...

  • Savage Love: Come Now

    Savage Love: Come Now

    Fortyish, straight, white dude here. I have this weird (possibly misogynistic) belief that, when it comes to sex, I can't win. Actually, I think men in general can't win. Thoughtful, well-meaning men at least. It comes down to this: During sex, if the man doesn't come, it's the man's fault, because...

  • Savage Love: Fantasy Scenarios

    Savage Love: Fantasy Scenarios

    I am a straight married man. My wife and I have a 4-year-old and a 3-month-old. We've just started having intercourse again. For Valentine's Day, we spent the night in a B&B while grandma watched the kids. We had edibles, drank sparkling wine, and then fucked. It was amazing. After we came and...

  • Savage Love: Pair of Aces

    Savage Love: Pair of Aces

    I've been reading your advice column in the Coast in Halifax for a while, and it seems that most solutions to relationship problems revolve around sex. Everyone wants it or needs it, we should fuck before dinner, or we can spice up our sex life in this certain way to be happy. What about someone...

  • Savage Love: Wilbur & Rensselaer

    Savage Love: Wilbur & Rensselaer

    Last week, I spoke at the Wilbur Theater in Boston and the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute in Troy, New York. Audience members submitted their questions on tiny cards before the show, allowing them to remain anonymous while forcing them to be succinct. Here are some of the questions I didn't have...

  • Savage Love: Advice Columnists Without Borders

    Savage Love: Advice Columnists Without Borders

    I am a 26-year-old heterosexual European man. I have been for four years in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend. Recently she cheated on me. When she told me what she did, I felt a very strong pain, even stronger than I expected. After a few days of pain, however, I found that the sexual...