Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

Recent Articles

  • Savage Love: Hard Work

    Savage Love: Hard Work

    I'm a 24-year-old gay male with few resources and no "marketable" skills. I have made a lot of bad choices and now I struggle to make ends meet in a crappy dead-end job, living paycheck to paycheck in an expensive East Coast city. Recently, someone on Grindr offered me $3,000 to have sex with him....

  • Savage Love: The Sister Act

    Savage Love: The Sister Act

    I'm a straight female in my mid-20s. I've been dating a wonderful guy for two years—but I recently found something that has put me on edge. Before we met, he was in a relationship with a terrible, alcoholic, and mentally unstable woman. They got pregnant early in the relationship and stayed together...

  • Savage Love: Fresh Air

    Savage Love: Fresh Air

    A couple of months ago, I got candida (a fungal infection) under my foreskin. I went to the doctor, picked up some cream, and used the cream as directed. The infection went away for about a week and then returned. I got this idea that maybe the cream didn't work the first time because it's so naturally...

  • Savage Love: Cold Cucked

    Savage Love: Cold Cucked

    I've always been a big believer in the common-sense obviousness that monogamy is hard. Additionally, I like the idea of my wife getting fucked. I don't have any desire to be denigrated or emasculated; I just get off on the idea of her being satisfied and a little transgressive. Early in our relationship,...

  • Savage Love: Broadway, Babies

    Savage Love: Broadway, Babies

    I'M A HETERO GUY in need of advice. Back in college, I met this girl. Suffice it to say she was into me but I had some shit to work through. So we ended up being a missed connection, romantically. Despite that, we still became fast friends. I'm less awkward now, in large part because our friendship...

  • Savage Love: Sexless Marriages: The Last Word

    Savage Love: Sexless Marriages: The Last Word

    DEAR READERS: Two weeks ago, I announced I would be taking a nice long break from questions about miserable sexless marriages. (I don't get questions about happily sexless marriages.) I tossed out my standard line of advice to those who've exhausted medical, psychological, and situational fixes...

  • Savage Love: Best Served Cold

    Savage Love: Best Served Cold

    I am a straight, married, 38-year-old woman. My husband and I have two children. I have been with my husband for 12 years, married for six. Three years after we were married, we found out that he was HIV positive. We had both had multiple tests throughout our relationship because of physicals and...

  • Savage Love: Down There

    Savage Love: Down There

    I am a cis woman in my mid-20s. I get a pang or a spasm of pain in a place deep in my clit/urethra area. I can't pinpoint which part exactly. It takes me by surprise every time it happens, so I jerk around and press my crotch for a hot second—which doesn't help, but it's about the only thing I...

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