Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

Recent Articles

  • Savage Love: The Wilbur Theatre

    Savage Love: The Wilbur Theatre

    A large crowd braved a snowstorm to come out to Savage Love Live at Boston's Wilbur Theatre last week. Questions were submitted on index cards, which allowed questioners to remain anonymous and forced them to be succinct. I got to as many of them as I could over two long, raucous, boozy hours....

  • Savage Love: Sound Mind and Body

    Savage Love: Sound Mind and Body

    Down to business: Christmas came and went, and every present I bought for my extraordinary husband could be opened in front of our children. He deserves better, and I have a particular gift in mind for Valentine's Day. My husband has expressed an interest in sounding, something we've attempted...

  • Savage Love: No Place for Old Dildos

    Savage Love: No Place for Old Dildos

    I am no longer sexually active, but I have a significant collection of sex toys from earlier years. I'm thinking of getting rid of most of them, and it seems such a waste for them to end up in the landfill. What's an environmentally responsible way to dispose of dildos? I wish there was a place...

  • Savage Love: Racist Preferences

    Savage Love: Racist Preferences

    As a queer man of color—I'm Asian—I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto, or any city where white gay men dominate. Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism. I understand that sexual attraction is...

  • Savage Love: Phones and Bones

    Savage Love: Phones and Bones

    I'm a 45-year-old straight male. Politically and socially, I consider myself an ardent feminist. There is nothing I enjoy more than giving a woman an orgasm or two. I'm very GGG and will cheerfully do whatever it takes. Fingers, tongue, cock, vibrator—I'm in. If it takes a long time, so much the...

  • Savage Love: Other Dicks, Other Doms

    Savage Love: Other Dicks, Other Doms

    I am a 30-year-old straight man and I've been with a 28-year-old bisexual woman for a year. Early in our relationship, after much discussion, we established that it would be open. I would have the liberty to see other women and so would she. We just had to be safe and always keep each other informed....

  • Savage Love: Cock Locked

    Savage Love: Cock Locked

    After spending some years in the doldrums after having kids, my husband and I are now enjoying hot kinky sex and the occasional free pass to fuck other people. We couldn't be happier. I have a friend who was extremely keen for me to cage his cock with the same kind of locking male chastity device...

  • Savage Love: Roughly Speaking

    Savage Love: Roughly Speaking

    I'm a straight 26-year-old man who wants advice on helping my fiancee realize a particular fantasy. We have been dating for three years and are in a happy monogamous relationship. I was always vanilla, but she enjoys rougher sex and light bondage. We've incorporated some of this into our sex lives,...

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