Dan Savage

Columnist Savage Love

Recent Articles

  • Savage Love: Degrading Games

    Savage Love: Degrading Games

    I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he is 31. I am bottom only, and he is top only—so it’s a good match. He seems sincerely interested in me and we are talking about being together. But here is the thing: He noticed that I have a rather small...

  • Savage Love: Necking

    Savage Love: Necking

    In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of Savage Love, I'm obviously not opposed to kinks—but I've never had any inclinations in that direction and am probably a typical hetero vanilla. As a result, I'm damn near clueless in that...

  • Savage Love: Parental Controls

    Savage Love: Parental Controls

    My only child is 16 years old. He was curious about sex from a very young age and very open with me, so his interest in sexual matters gave me ample opportunity to talk with him about safety and consent. He went through a cross-dressing phase when he was small—mostly wanting to wear nail polish...

  • Savage Love: Poly Wants

    Savage Love: Poly Wants

    I'm a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far been the best relationship I've ever had. However, something has me a bit on edge. We went on a trip with friends to a brewery with a great restaurant. It was an amazing place,...

  • Savage Love: 'Bate and Snitch

    Savage Love: 'Bate and Snitch

    I'm a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I've been in, which is great, except one part is freaking me out: I recently "caught" my girlfriend masturbating with her roommate's panties. (She knew I was coming over and wanted me to catch...

  • Savage Love: At the Palace

    Savage Love: At the Palace

    I had a blast hosting Savage Lovecast Live at San Francisco's Palace of Fine Arts. Audience members submitted questions before the show, and I consumed a large pot edible right after the curtain went up and then raced to give as much decent sex advice as I could before it took effect. Here are...

  • Savage Love: Dicks Deluxe

    Savage Love: Dicks Deluxe

    I am a 35-year-old straight guy. I met a nice lady through the normal methods, and we hit it off and have grown closer. I think we are both considering "taking it to the next level." We are on the same intellectual wavelength, enjoy the same social experiences, and have a lot of fun together. So...

  • Savage Love: Girls and Women and Sex

    Savage Love: Girls and Women and Sex

    My teenage daughter just came out to us as gay. We told her we love her and support her. As a heterosexual, cisgender mother, how do I make sure she gets good advice about sex? I don't want her learning from other kids or porn. Do you know of any good, sex-positive advice books for lesbian teens?...

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